As 2013 skips (limps?) into that metaphorical sunset leaving behind only memories, we face another new year full of possibilities. And as we consider this “beginning,” resolutions of things to accomplish are written down, discussed, kept secret, or turned into a PowerPoint presentation to be shared with everyone. Most of these resolutions will soon fade away, like the traffic at my gym around February, only to be brought back as 2015 peeks its head around the corner.
I discussed this with Chloe (age 8), and she was adamant that resolutions get it wrong: they cover too long a time frame and should be more of a daily thing. So with that in mind, I present to you . . .
Chloe’s and Steven’s Daily Do List for 2014
Daily Do 1: Keep perspective. Things in life are very seldom completely one way or the other. Most events, people, or moments are a shade of gray. You very rarely have a 100% good or bad day; you have days full of good and bad moments all along the gray scale. And when you consider that there’s always someone that has it worse than you do, it helps you keep perspective on how blessed we all are.
Daily Do 2: Remember that your opinions aren’t facts, for you or for anyone else. They are opinions. They are neither right nor wrong, but some are more informed. If your opinion hurts, mocks, or takes away someone else’s ability to live a fulfilling life, then your opinion should evolve. But that’s just my opinion. (And Chloe’s.)
Daily Do 3: If there’s something that you want to do that betters your life or someone else’s . . . do it. We make things more complex than they actually are. So this year, let’s put aside the excuses, the fact that it’s hard, or any other reasons we come up with that keep us from doing something and do it. You want to get in better shape . . . then do. You want to sign up for a dance class, write a novel, quit smoking, spend more time with your kids, have more fun, then do. No matter how hard something is, no matter the millions of excuses you come up with not to do it, it all comes down to a choice. And that perfect day that you’ve been waiting for to do those things? It’s today. Right after you finish reading this.
Daily Do 4: Take the focus off yourself and put it elsewhere. Self-centeredness starts the day we’re born and continues in some form throughout our entire lives. So this year . . . put your focus elsewhere. On others, on a good book, on making the world a better place, or on whatever you happen to be doing at the moment. You’ll find that you are happier and accomplish a lot more this way.
Daily Do 5: Don’t forget that everything is temporary. That wonderful moment you shared with someone? Temporary. Your kids being kids? Temporary. That really terrible day? Temporary. Those great moments in your life? Temporary. Everything becomes a memory at some point. In an instant, the moment is gone and the present becomes past. Remembering that on a daily basis is not a negative thing: it’s a call to make the most of whatever time you have. There are billions upon billions who would love to be in your shoes today.
So those are mine and Chloe’s “Daily Dos for 2014.” Use them as you will.
By the way, Chloe wanted to add four more daily dos but that would have made nine. So I’ll include them here: Brush your teeth, be nice, eat a cupcake, and have fun every day. If you do all those things, plus the five above, on a daily basis (except for perhaps eating a cupcake – maybe once a week for that one), well . . . who knows what might happen?
Here it is. Steven's blog, where his thoughts about things are revealed. Good luck.